Engagement, Connections, Emotions

I used to be an officer in a part-time faculty union.  Following the successful renegotiation of the union’s contract with the university, I proposed to the other union officers that now was the perfect time to ask our members how they felt about their adjunct faculty organization.  The idea met some resistance; the leadership’s usual take on membership surveys is to issue them before negotiations, to discover what members wanted to improve in their agreement with the administration.

To ask members what they thought about the union after negotiations seemed counterintuitive.  To which I replied, “I don’t want to find out what they think about the union; I want to find out how they feel about it.”

Crickets.  You could have heard a pin drop.  Sometimes I forget that every organization – from monoliths like Amazon and Walmart, to the lowliest lemonade stand entrepreneur – wants and needs results.  More often than not, feelings must be set aside to accomplish the tasks that will produce those results.

However, any organization that fails to recognize or chooses to ignore the feelings of the individuals who comprise it runs the risk of forgetting why they’re an organization in the first place.  No organization goes forward without understanding, fostering and promoting the well-being its members, as well as encouraging its members to do likewise for one another and for their collective voice.

All of us from time to time face challenges that, as much as we want to handle them by ourselves, are more than what any one of us can handle.  It is exactly challenges like these that brought that part-time faculty union into being nearly 20 years ago; and as long as these challenges continue to exist, the need for organizations like that adjunct faculty union will continue to exist with them.

I wanted our members to think about what it means to them to belong to the union.  The organization is valuable, strong, and committed to the goals of fair compensation and positive work conditions because ITS MEMBERS are valuable, strong, and committed to these same goals.

I was slow to realize that the other officers strongly disagreed.  One went so far as to say, “the survey is about engagement, but your article is all about feelings” – implying that engagement and feelings have nothing to do with one another.  I cannot describe how frustrating it was to try to get these folks to explain exactly what it was that they had against feelings.

If an organization’s sole goal is to get things done, feelings must be ignored and denied.  But if the goal is to accomplish those tasks AND work collaboratively together, feelings must be acknowledged and recognized.  Anything less is a recipe for discontent, resentment and, ultimately, dissolution.

A Huge Lone Wolf Success

I’m on the train to St. Louis en route to my annual Missouri Ozark extravaganza vacation. My friends will collect me from the station in St. Louis – which will save a huge amount of time.

I was dumped on Tuesday (man, I really liked that woman) and totally dissed on Saturday (nice tits do not trump rudeness). At the beginning of the trip out of Chicago a pretty girl was looking for a seat. I hoped she would sit next to me, but she sat next to the guy across the aisle from me, saying “you look normal” as she took her seat. I was just beaten and broken enough to take her to mean that I didn’t look normal.

I was asked to move from my seat to let a granddad and granddaughter sit together. I ended up sitting next to a very pretty woman, easily thirty years younger than me. And, not to be a dick about it, much more attractive than my earlier desire. This girl was downright gorgeous: thick shoulder length strawberry red hair, slender build, and a face to make men weak in the knees.

God, karma, or whatever is running the show (if anything IS running the show) sure seems to be taking great pleasure in my tortured sexual frustration. Of course, that’s a bit egotistical – what reason do I have to think the universe gives a rat’s ass about me?

I won’t wallow in self-pity. I’ve worked hard at being by myself for so long that I now realize I’ve accomplished that goal summa cum laude. I’m a huge lone wolf success. New goal: work on yourself so that someone somewhere WANTS you. How hard can it be? BWAAAAHHH …